Get Over It

Women that have been raped (especially years ago) that are still lamenting about it, really piss me off. My god! What does this say about your coping skills? Why advertise weakness? I wouldn't want to have a friend, employee, employer, relative that hangs on to an attention-getting event. What the hell? Do you think it says good things about you that you can't move on? Do you think it shows you are capable of growth and change? Do you think it shows ability to face your fears?

It shows you are weak. It shows the world you are a victim, and are content to remain one.

BTW, here's a clue: just because you were raped, does not mean you were victimized. Being a victim is a state of mind. And you are the only one that can choose your state of mind.

Think about what people had to go through in the concentration camps, or slavery. We're not talking about one bad event here. We are talking about lives not worth living. Yet, somehow, they managed to live on. They managed to find joy--even if it was a small joy. You could say they were victims. I say they were strong.

We could all learn from that strength. Life really isn't so bad--no matter what. It is all how you look at it. It's in your attitude. It's about desire. Do you desire to stand in one place while the world moves on? Or do you desire to live?

Me? I want to live.